Utterly in love

Last week, I got the chance to sit down with 2 of my friends from High School. One of the girls was my first friend when I moved to Orange County back in 1992. As we sat and sipped on our cocktails, we chatted about dating, love and marriage. I’m the only one out of the 3 that’s married so as luck would have it, I was asked the ever popular question “How did you know our husband was THE ONE?”

I paused for a second as I tried to put my finger on the right answer. “Perhaps its when you can watch your partner sleep for hours and realize that you want to wake up next to him every morning for the rest of your life” I replied. But I realized that I didn’t have just one reason why I knew he was “The One”. That night, I also realized how much more I love him today than I did the day we got married.

If you remember, my husband and I met at 18 and 19. We grew up together and at such a young age, we hadn’t found ourselves yet. We still had a lot of growing up to do. About 4 years ago, we hit a major bump in the road. As much as we loved each other and worked to stay married, our priorities were very different. After a rough 16 months or so, our paths finally met again. We were fortunate enough to take some time off and spent just about every moment together. We slowly rediscovered our relationship and fell in love all over again.

At the time, I didn’t understand why this was happening to me. But if you asked me today, I wouldn’t have changed a single thing {as cliche as that sounds, it’s true}.  I’m so grateful for the experience that helped us fall deeper in love with each other.  A wise man once told me: In any situation of hardship, you should accept the change, harvest the good from it and then forgive all the rest.

So thank you Daphne and Shelley for helping realize how blessed I am! And as you plan your wedding, I hope that you’ll take the time to remember the true meaning of a wedding and take the time to love each other every moment you can.